Dear Abby:
I am a blond, slim, 5-foot-10 female -- single and in great shape. People tell me I am beautiful. I am also HIV-positive.
Àú´Â ´Ã¾ÀÇÏ°í Å°°¡ 178cm ÀÎ ±Ý¹ß ¿©¼ºÀÔ´Ï´Ù. ÇöÀç ½Ì±ÛÀÌ°í ¸ö¸Åµµ ÁÁ¾Æ¿ä. ÁÖº¯ »ç¶÷µéÀº Á¦°¡ ¾Æ¸§´ä´Ù°í ÇÏÁÒ. ±×¸®°í HIV ¾ç¼º ÆÇÁ¤À» ¹Þ¾Ò¾î¿ä.
I would like to meet someone special and settle down. But as soon as I meet a man I like, I struggle with the question of when to reveal my health situation.
Àü Ưº°ÇÑ »ç¶÷À» ¸¸³ª °áÈ¥ÇØ ¾ÈÁ¤µÈ »îÀ» »ì°í ½Í¾î¿ä. ±×·±µ¥ ±¦ÂúÀº ³²ÀÚ¸¦ ¸¸³ª±â¸¸ Çϸé Á¦ °Ç° »óÅ¿¡ ´ëÇØ ¾ðÁ¦ ¸»ÇØ¾ß ÇÒ ÁöºÎÅÍ °í¹ÎÇÏ°Ô µÅ¿ä.
I have told them right away and I never hear from them again, which I find very insulting.
¹Ù·Î ¸»Çعö¸®¸é ´Ù½Ã´Â ¿¬¶ôÀ» ¾È ÇÏ´õ±º¿ä. ±×·³ ²À ¸ð¿å´çÇÑ ±âºÐÀÌ µé¾î¿ä.
Some of my friends tell me I should date a guy for a few months and then say something, but I'd feel betrayed if someone waited that long to tell me.
Á¦ Ä£±¸µéÀº ¸î ´Þ µ¿¾È »ç±Ï ÈÄ¿¡ ¸»Ç϶ó°í ÇÏ´õ±º¿ä. ÇÏÁö¸¸ ÀÔÀåÀ» ¹Ù²ã¼ ´©±º°¡ Á¦°Ô ÇÑÂü µÚ¿¡ ¸»ÇØÁá´Ù°í »ý°¢Çغ¸¸é ¹è½Å ´çÇÑ ±âºÐÀÏ °Í °°¾Æ¿ä.
I don't want to just blurt out the information at a first meeting. I'm very confused. Please help me.
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-- WANTS TO BE MARRIED, GAINESVILLE, FLA.
Dear WANTS TO BE MARRIED:
There is no need to wear a scarlet letter declaring to anyone who shows an interest that you are HIV-positive.
´ç½Å¿¡°Ô °ü½ÉÀ» º¸ÀÌ´Â ¸ðµç »ç¶÷µé¿¡°Ô HIV ¾ç¼º ¹ÝÀÀÀÚÀÓÀ» ¹àÈûÀ¸·Î½á ÁÖÈ«±Û¾¾¸¦ ´Þ°í ´Ù´Ò ÇÊ¿ä´Â ¾ø¾î¿ä.
There is EVERY reason in the world to take the time to get to know someone -- and for him to get to know you -- before having sex.
±×º¸´Ù´Â ¼º°ü°è¸¦ °®±â Àü¿¡ ¼·Î »ó´ë¹æ¿¡ ´ëÇØ ¾Æ´Â ½Ã°£À» ÃæºÐÈ÷ °¡Áö¼ÌÀ¸¸é ÇØ¿ä.
When you are finally ready for physical intimacy, you should then disclose your HIV status. If the man loves you, he won't leave you.
±×·¡¼ ¼·Î°¡ À°Ã¼ÀûÀ¸·Î °¡±î¿öÁú Áغñ°¡ µÇ¸é, ±× ¶§ HIV ¾ç¼º ¹ÝÀÀÀÚÀÎ »ç½ÇÀ» ¹àÈ÷¼¼¿ä.
If he doesn't love you, good riddance.
³²ÀÚ°¡ ´ç½ÅÀ» »ç¶ûÇÑ´Ù¸é ¶°³ªÁö ¾ÊÀ» °Å¿¹¿ä. ´ç½ÅÀ» »ç¶ûÇÏÁö ¾Ê¾Æ ¶°³´Ù¸é Â÷¶ó¸® ÀßµÈ ÀÏ ÀΰÅÁÒ.
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