WIFE CAN'T UNDERSTAND HER HUSBAND'S LOVE OF LINGERIE
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Dear Abby:
My husband, a middle-aged minister, can rarely perform in the bedroom without wearing women's lingerie.
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I have put up with it because he seems to need it.
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Lately he has begun wearing a bra around the house every day.
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He tries to hide it by wearing a heavy shirt or coat, but I can feel it when I hug him before leaving for work.
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I suspect he's even worn it to church.
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What would the parishioners think if they knew their preacher was delivering his sermon while wearing a bra?
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It's starting to affect our marriage.
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He rarely speaks to me lately, and when he does, it's usually in monosyllables.
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I know hes not gay.
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Until now, our marriage has been a happy one.
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I know many men have this problem.
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Maybe it shouldn't bother me so much, but it does.
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I don't know who to talk to.
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Everybody else takes their problems to their minister, but my husband IS one.
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If I go to his superiors, I'm afraid I'll get him into trouble, which I don't want to do.
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Why do men wear women's clothes? Is it wrong?
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-- NEEDS TO KNOW IN THE SOUTHWEST
Dear Needs:
Men wear women's clothes for a variety of reasons.
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For some it's a sexual fetish; others do it because they say it calms them and relieves stress.
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It isn't "wrong," but it is different.
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Some wives go along with it and help their husbands to cross-dress.
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Others have a difficult time adjusting to it.
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This is not something that should be discussed with your husband's superiors.
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More important than talking to anybody right now is for you to learn all you can about transvestism and cross-dressing.
ÇöÀç·Î¼´Â ´©±º°¡¿Í ÀÌ ¹®Á¦¿¡ ´ëÇØ »óÀÇÇϱ⺸´Ù´Â º¹Àå µµÂøÁõ°ú À̼ºÀÇ ¿ÊÀ» ÀÔ´Â ÇàÀ§¿¡ ´ëÇØ ¸¹Àº °ÍÀ» ¾Æ´Â °Ô Áß¿äÇØ¿ä.
An excellent place to start would be to contact The Society for the Second Self.
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Write to the society or visit its Web site
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